Ladypolitik

· 14/4/12 · 138493 · Reblog

offbeatorbit:

lavender-labia:

“Good morning New York. I’m sorry to bother you. I’m not hungry. I do not want food or money, I just need a little support. I got dumped last week and I’m trying to give her space but I can’t do nothing. If you have any words of advice for me, a quote that resonates with you or a story about second chances, please raise your hand and I’ll come to you. I have sharpie markers and I’ll stay as long as it takes.”

lavender-labia:

cuddlingisoptional:

I normally do not reblog this kind of shit, but for any dude that has ever been dumped, still in love and desperately tried to win her heart back, no matter the circumstance…this is legit shit. And do not give me that bullshit “dude, if she dumped you she obviously doesnt want to be with you, just get over it, you pathetic asshole”…First of all, fuck you. Second of all, fuck you.

Your comments are the epitome of rape culture and everything that is wrong with concept of friend-zoning. Fuck you. Like actually fuck you, you entitled piece of shit. Women owe you NOTHING. Women do know what they want, and if they dump you it IS because they don’t want to be with you. Stop perpetuating the sexist assumption that women don’t know their own mind. No means no, and any other interpretation is rape culture at work. You and your commentary can actually fuck off. 

As for the OP: I’m speechless. “I’m trying to give her space, but I’m walking around with her face on a sandwich board and I’m convincing everyone that she’s the horrible person here and I’m so unfairly victimised.” Cool story, bro. Tell me more about how you’re irresistible and why everyone should want to be with you.

Reblogging to add: behaviours like this become even more terrifying when you consider that the riskiest time in a woman’s life is when she breaks up with a male partner (in that she is significantly more likely to be murdered than at any other point in her life). Too often that partner perceives the break up as a challenge to their authority/masculinity and take drastic action to either a) get them back or b) stop anyone else from having them either. That - in addition to the rapey/entitled undertones - is what makes this dude’s actions so fucking terrifying. 

what a loser

Whoa. That awkward moment you unwittingly expose to the universe precisely why you might’ve been dumped in the first place.

Think about it: we dont know why she broke up with him, but a stunt like would have people presume it wouldn’t have been for good reasons. Strangers are suppose to presume he’s The Good Guy, when for all we know, she’s getting  away from him because he was — hmm, let’s see — kinda immature…or kinda melodramatic…or kinda insecure…or lacks a clear sense of boundaries. All of which are undesirable qualities in a mate even before getting into suggesting he could be controlling and/or abusive. We dont know, but this display? Doesn’t exactly help dispel suspicions that he possessed some, all and/or OTHER forms of those perfectly dump-able characteristics.

And you know what? Even if the reason was simply that she fell outta love/”like” with him, a girl should be able to break up with a guy without being publicly guilted into granting ‘second chances’ (protip: no mature person confuses obvious manipulation with “romantic gestures”). Or for being — altogether now — honest with her partner. Easily preferable to being strung along with unrequited love. Either way, she doesn’t owe him or anyone anything.  

Anyway, this all sorta smacks of The Nice Guy Complex™ strung out on the purest cut of Peruvian cocaine. Not a good look, and not an angle that’ll win over  future girlfriends, never mind ex ones. 

And @”cuddlingisoptional” — change your moniker, bro. If you subscribe to or empathize with that level of territorial thinking where DATING is concerned? Yeah, change your  handle. Talk about false advertising.

(Source: mendmyheart)

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